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a moving meditation

| jamiefeinberg

Last week, I explored a grounding practice for the winter, and I offered an audio recording to try with it. It must have resonated with a lot of people, because it was the largest response I’ve seen to one of my posts in a long time. So today, I’m going to offer a moving meditation. 

I love moving meditation, because when my brain is busy, as it often is, it’s easier to get myself to incorporate a moving practice than a practice of stillness into my life. Although it’s much improved given my mental fitness practices, I still often find myself with a chatty inner critic and persistent sabotaging thoughts, from anxious to angry to wanting to avoid things, that threaten to derail me. 

Fading fall colors and trees overlook the ocean. Photo by Jamie Feinberg. 

After unsuccessful attempts to incorporate meditation into my life (at least beyond walking and yoga), I finally found a meditation practice I could stick with when I turned it into a moving meditation. I now do one every single morning, and it’s been extraordinarily life-changing for me. 

I credit my mental fitness work with helping me to instill the habit and also to introduce me to just how important the work is. 

I could write an entire article on HOW to do it, likely several, but for today, I’m just going to focus on the doing. First, let’s define what I’m talking about.

There are all sorts of moving meditations out there. There’s a beautiful Buddhist practice that can be very popular,involving an extremely slow practice of moving (generally outside). But for those of us whose busy brains or bodies who won’t let us consider that type of practice, we’ve got another option. It’s also a great way to incorporate mindfulness into your exercise routine. 

This practice can be done on a treadmill or walking around indoors, though I highly recommend an outside walk (or even a jog or run) if that is possible for you right now. As I type this, I’m indoors, looking out at the gorgeous sun and blue sky. This would be a perfect day to do this outside, because while it is very cold right now on Prince Edward Island, the sun can assist with both the feel of the temperature and with my mental state. 

This is the practice. If you’d like to try it, or if you’d prefer to hear it modeled for you rather than read it, here you go. 

Begin by claiming this time, and this space, for yourself. Tune in to your breath. Observe the inhale and the exhale. What parts of your body get involved when you breathe? 

If you haven’t yet, let’s begin walking. If you’d rather do this practice while jogging or running, that’s also a possibility. Just keep tuning in to your body. If you’re having a challenging time multi-tasking, please put your safety first and slow down. 

Let’s begin by feeling the surface underneath us. Notice the sensations you feel with each step. What can you observe as you step? Now let’s tune in to the sounds our limbs make as they land. What else can you notice? 

Observe the muscles that get involved when you take a step. Be present to what your feet are doing, and what feelings are present. Notice the movement of your legs as you move. 

Now, let’s observe the movements of your upper body. Is there a rhythm to your hands or arms? Feel the feeling of the wind or air on your face. If there’s sun on you, can you feel it? Notice whatever physical sensations you can right now. 

Now, let’s focus our attention on our sense of sight. What colors can you observe around you today? What textures can you discern? What movements inhabit the world you’re encountering? Can you find some details that you’ve never noticed before? 

I love to notice details in the trees, along walls, and find flowers and other nature wherever I go. What are you present to today? 

Let’s try to focus on our sense of touch. Using your fingertips, choose a texture to focus on. It can be your clothing, your skin, or something outside of yourself. Move your fingertips around to feel all the physical sensations of touch

Now, let’s turn our attention to our sense of sound. What is the farthest sound you can hear right now? Focus your attention on it, and see how many details you can discern. Now, let’s focus our attention on the closest sound you can hear. And once more, let’s focus on another sound that calls your attention. What details and nuances can you notice?

These ideas can be repeated ad nauseum. You can also allow yourself to follow your own instincts, focusing especially on the five senses. Enjoy your movement meditation for as long as you’d like to today. 

I hope this has been helpful for you. If you found it useful, you may also enjoy last week’s grounding practice for winter.And if you’re looking for more mental fitness tools or would like some help tuning down the sabotaging thoughts so you can enjoy your life more, come grab your free session with me. 

And if this was useful, I hope you’ll share it with a friend. Thanks for being here. Keep resisting.  

TOP TIPS FOR FACING YOUR FEAR

| jamiefeinberg

What are you afraid of?

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What came up for you when you read that just now? (Or was your answer, “nothing! I’m not afraid”? And did you believe that thought?)

Some of us are more fearful than others, and some of us have fears that we’ve quietly tucked away in hopes that they’ll go away, and still others are already in the habit of facing their fears and doing it anyway. I’ve found that with practice, we can all build momentum and get more comfortable with facing our fears, even if it doesn’t come naturally.

Way back in 2020, I shared some tips that I had found useful for facing my fears. That first year of the pandemic was such a challenging time to be alive, wasn’t it? (Even for those of us with relative safety and lots of privilege.)

Unfortunately, while some things have gotten better since then, much is the same, or perhaps even worse, depending on your vantage point. I hope you’re prioritizing your own health and well-being. There’s so much stress and vitriol in the world, and while it’s essential for us to stand up for the less fortunate and do what’s ours to do in the world, if we let it consume us, it really will – and the world will miss out as a result.

As Susie Moore has said, “You don’t clear your fear so that you can pursue new things. You pursue new things to clear your fear”.

It can be really helpful to stop and articulate, with words (out loud or in writing, or even with imagery) how we’re feeling and what we’re fearing. Putting a name to it can make it easier to face.

Here are some of the things I’m fearing right now:

  • Climate change – what it’s doing now, and what’s to come
  • Whether I’ll build my business to the level of impact I’m working toward
  • The costs of lots of “life stuff”, from future family events to car repairs to retirement
  • That I am not doing enough in politics and in life to protect and support others
  • That I am not safe to share my views and background and be my authentic self
  • That so many people with less privileges than I have are not safe and are being denied opportunities
  • That I am overcommitted
  • That I am not committed enough

Your fears may be completely different from mine, large or small – and that doesn’t make them any more or less valid than mine. Maybe you fear the pushback from family about your decision to be childfree or about your sexuality. Maybe you’ve set a boundary or know you need to and are afraid of what the blowback could be. Maybe you have a sick family member or a safety concern, for yourself or someone else. Maybe you’re putting yourself out there authentically on social media and are fearful of what some people will have to say.

As you may recognize, my fears are only sometimes rational, and they’re seldom productive in a given moment, because while there may be some truth to them, focusing on the fears keeps me from accomplishing my goals (and is thus often counter-productive).

Here are some of the things I do to alleviate my worry and face my fears:

  • Daily work on my business & accountability checks with my mastermind, coaches and mentors
  • Weekly (and sometimes daily) work on activism and education
  • A gratitude practice
  • Practicing accountable spending
  • Supporting causes and people I care about, financially and with my time and energy
  • Limiting my time on social media & connecting in real life with people who value my authenticity and respect my choice to be childfree & pursue my passions
  • Grounding myself throughout the day through mindfulness exercises and my morning and evening routine
  • Weekly audit of my schedule and a look ahead where I consider what’s mine to do, where I need more boundaries, and letting other things go

While many of us (including me) can get caught in anxiety spirals, busywork, and unproductive thinking (including hearing the words of an inner critic or arguing with it) all day, it’s essential to carve out dedicated, focused time for productive thinking.

Some of us may not have that struggle as much as the struggle of focusing on productive doing (those dishes need to get washed sometime! Is it really a good idea to clean the garage instead of pack for a trip right now?) or focusing on making time to identify, acknowledge, and sit with our emotions.

Making a plan with concrete steps can be helpful – and sometimes, just planning to do the next right thing is plenty. If we’re feeling scared of the unknown, what’s one thing that’s within our control that we can make progress on today? If we’re frightened that x might happen, what’s one step we can take that will lessen the blow if it comes true?

For instance, if we’re afraid that a wildfire could burn our house down, maybe we should pack an emergency bag & create a plan.

If we’re afraid of the outcome of an election, we should vote and encourage our friends to do the same, and lend our support to the causes and people we care about if we’re able to do so.

We can’t eliminate the possibility of the things we fear, in many cases, but we can work to eliminate the fear by tackling it head on with the pursuit of new things, as Susie Moore says. Taking concrete steps feels good: mentally, physically, and emotionally.

And if you’re already doing all the things, and it isn’t helping?

Try slowing down. Meditate. Journal. Take a walk in nature. Remind yourself that you’re safe, you’re loved, you’re enough and worthy just because you are. Trust that you’re doing enough. Trust that you’re capable of handling this, just like you’ve handled other hard things.

And if this feels daunting, or you’d like more clarity on your next steps, that’s why I’m here! Today’s the perfect day to take a step toward your dreams and a better future by booking a free call with me.

Can you relate to any of these?

What is one thing you will commit to doing today to face your fear?

Note: This article was inspired by one I first wrote and shared on October 16, 2020.

Twenty Years of Yoga: It’s Time To Celebrate!

| jamiefeinberg

Today I’m celebrating a huge milestone – I’ve been a yogini (a female practitioner of yoga) for twenty years!!!

I realize this post is going to age me a bit, but I am so stinkin’ proud that twenty years later, I have a consistent yoga practice and continue to feel the effects that yoga has brought to my life.

I first tried yoga at age sixteen. I went to a private day school in middle and high school (founded by hippies, very pricey, super privileged for sure) and we were required to play sports to fulfill the state’s gym requirement. In the fall of my junior year, the nurse offered yoga as a sports elective, and I was thrilled to do that instead of field hockey (which I loved, but which took up far too much of my otherwise available for theater and music time).

I quickly learned that I already had a great deal of flexibility, which would suit me well, and I also found it tough but enjoyable to sit in silence and close my eyes, particularly around my classmates and friends.

When the nurse decided not to offer it the following year, I was pretty devastated. But I was able to design my own sport by taking yoga and aerobics classes at my local gym instead. I was exposed to several different teachers, realizing that there are lots of styles and approaches to yoga, and some of it is much more strenuous than others.

So began my yoga journey! I’d stretch a bit and try poses on my own, but my class consumption varied widely during college. After college, I picked up a yoga video and then found myself gravitating toward other forms of exercise that incorporated some yoga into the mix. (Yes, Yoga Booty Ballet, I’m looking at you!!! My one and only informercial purchase!)

Over the years, I took advantage of free or affordable yoga whenever possible. A class at a retreat I was working. A series of classes at the same church I accompanied services for. And during my one and only corporate-like stint working at a co-op, I took advantage of the once per week, $5 yoga classes.

When we hit the road in late 2016 in our RV, I was armed with my favorite workout series to date (ChaLean Extreme will date me again) which included some yoga in the mix. I also began experimenting with yoga videos on Amazon Prime and Netflix – I’d download them to my phone when we had good wifi.

In 2018, my husband Ross (with my booking assistance) began improvising music live for yoga classes. This was an incredible gift, because in addition to making money from each of the attendees (shared with the instructor and studio), I got to attend the classes for free! That meant that for a long stretch, I got to take about one yoga class per month, each with a new instructor. The project even inspired Ross to record an ambient music album perfect for relaxation, meditation and yoga. (Link here)

With COVID-19, we have had to put our in-person yoga efforts aside, but the incredible gift of the pandemic for me (if I can say that) has been developing a more consistent yoga practice. My instructor, Tracy, was one of my favorite instructors from almost ten years back at that church job. Nowadays she teaches lessons remotely, so her Vermont location is no problem for me, and her suggested fees are extremely reasonable (and there’s no charge if it’s a hardship for you). (Link to her)

Being in a tiny RV, I can’t do yoga unless my husband is awake and about, but I’ve nevertheless gotten into a routine of yoga and meditation three nights per week, and it has been essential to my stress management, particularly over the last several months as tensions have heightened, from racial justice issues to politics and more. I’ve also tried a few other instructors when my schedule allows, and I’ve experimented a bit with free meditations too.

Previous to the pandemic, I struggled to make yoga a consistent part of my routine. I had no problem doing some stretches before bed, and I always loved the time I gave it, but since it doesn’t feel like “exercise” in the same way that some other forms of movement do, I always made it an extra, if I have time sort of thing.

What I’ve realized this year is that I am much more prepared to face the world when yoga is a mandatory part of my routine. And I’m so thankful that I’ve been able to set that time aside, and that Tracy has made it so affordable. (I even do yoga on those days when she takes time off! It’s now that much of a habit.)

So today I celebrate twenty years of yoga, but not just that – I celebrate twenty years of continuing to fine-tune my practice and develop consistency in my health habits. Habits are a cornerstone of my life and work, and I’m so thankful to have realized how essential yoga is to that for me.

Have you tried yoga? How did/do you like it?

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