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Time for a fall reset

| jamiefeinberg

It’s September, and I don’t know about you, but I’m not quite sure how that happened. I’m grateful for all the beautiful summer experiences I was able to make time for this year, but I am also aware of both the things I have fallen short with as well as the people around the world unable to enjoy both the luxuries and the simple things that I’ve been able to recently.

I will also admit that I’ve had some incredible challenges and stressors of my own this summer. But rather than dwell on all that, I am looking ahead. I’m looking ahead to a fall that is more aligned and designed than hoping for the best. A fall that acknowledges that there are things I can’t control, but there are things I can. And if I have the time and space and energy, I can even make some time for establishing new, healthier practices for my body, mind and spirit in the season to come.

(Photo of a beautiful view of the water from North Rustico, Prince Edward Island, heron and red sand and wildflowers in sight – photo by Jamie Feinberg)

If you like the sound of all this too, let’s connect. I’m offering a special Labor Day (or Labour Day, depending on where you are!) promotion, with several options depending on what suits you. I am here to help people to live and create a life that they love, and I’d be honored to share my tools with you and help you to utilize your own gifts and do the same.

Ready to prioritize you – in a new way?

BOGO 1:1 Coaching (New and returning clients!):
2 60-75 min coaching sessions w/ a pre-session worksheet & a follow-up summary (session credits must be used by December 31, 2026) – $179 (buy 1 session at my normal price, and I throw a second one in for free!)

Enneagram Workshop Pre-Sale
Full details to be announced in forthcoming months, but this reserves your place at an affordable price.
$75 total gets you access to three new Enneagram workshops, with recordings available if you can’t attend live.
*October session: Harvesting the Positives from your Enneagram Number
*November session: Finding the High Side of Your Stress and Security Numbers
*December: Integrating Mental Fitness For Each Enneagram Number & Letting Go of the Trap of Personality
These workshops will run 1.5-2 hours, held online, with a recording available if you can’t make it live. These workshops are for you if you’ve learned your Enneagram number and would like to begin, or continue, to take your work to the next level.

Enneagram-Curious: Considering working with a practitioner 1:1 to discover your number and learn more about who you are and why you do what you do? Know your number, but want some support figuring out what you can actually DO with that information? I’m offering an introductory price on this new offer of only $50 for an hour of Enneagram training, or only $150 for 4 sessions.

Mental Fitness: Make Me An Offer!
*Maybe you enjoyed a free mental fitness session with me, but the timing wasn’t right.
*Maybe you’ve already seen the difference mental fitness has made in the lives of people you know, and you’ve decided now is the time.
*Maybe you’re just ready to stop beating yourself up in your own mind, and you’re ready to let go of the negative thoughts and habits that aren’t serving you anymore.
I’ve got a few spots available this fall, and as long as you are able to cover my materials costs, I’m excited to begin working with you, at a price that’s affordable to you. Join me solo or invite a friend or some family members to join us.

Reach out ASAP for details! Contact me here or elsewhere if we’re connected already, or book a Saboteur Assessment time to give mental fitness a try.

Regardless of whether or not you’d like to work with me (or are able to right now), I would love to hear from you. What are your plans for this fall? What does self-care look like? What kind of goals are you setting? How are you saying sane? I hope you’re giving yourself credit for whatever you’re able to do in these challenging times.

Cultivating Curiosity

| jamiefeinberg

After months (and in one participant’s case, years) of anticipation, we’ve got our next Enneagram cohort in place, and on Thursday evening, I had the joy of facilitating our first session. 

I love having the opportunity to bring women (and folks of all genders) together as we each move along the path toward personal growth. We identify and shed layers of habits that no longer serve us. We get clarity on who we are and who we can be, and we support each other as we all follow our own unique path and needs in becoming. 

When I get frustrated, angry, scared about what the world might have in store and of course about what is literally happening right now, my mental fitness training and my Enneagram training offer my opportunities. 

I know from my work that there can be a gift found in any situation, if we choose to do so. And that while fear is hardwired in us, so is love. And love can do so much. 

When I act from love, one of the options available to me is to become curious. And as I have mentioned before, curiosity is truly a gift of our wise mind. 

When I regularly practice cultivating presence, it also helps me to cultivate curiosity. The more present I am, the more likely that I can find curiosity in any situation that calls for. 

Photo of a curious child with a magnifying glass and a plant by Anna Shvets

Perhaps someone’s behavior is puzzling you, or offending you, or hurting you. Perhaps you want to know why they’re doing it. 

I might choose to hone my curiosity where it leads. 

What if we bring curiosity to the things we don’t understand? 

  • The family member who upset you
  • The car who cut you off
  • The friend who no longer speaks to you
  • The co-worker whose words hurt you 

Can you do some work to ground yourself, and then ask yourself to get curious about why it might have happened? 

Curiosity doesn’t mean you have to find the right answer. But in the process of asking questions, of getting curious, we can often find comfort in finding possible explanations – even without certainty. 

What are you curious about? How do you cultivate curiosity? And where in your life would you like to cultivate more curiosity? 
Cultivating curiosity is an important tool in my toolbox, and I help my clients to do so as well. If you’re curious to learn some mental fitness skills and see how saboteurs are keeping you from living a life you love, head here. 

Together to do the hard things

| jamiefeinberg

Hi friends. While I am feeling so grateful for the sun entering my room and to be safe and warm on this cool January day, my heart is heavy with the quick pace of horrendous news coming at me and worries about what this will mean for friends, family, and the larger community in the United States and around the world. 

(Photo of a gray blue surface of a rock, by Pixabay, who told me this is a hard thing.)

I wanted to share a resource I found helpful today, as well as a new opportunity I’ve created as my own personal contribution. 

Robert Reich shared an excellent article yesterday with ten suggestions for what you can do now in the face of all of this. 

His top ten includes great detail, but the quick overview is below: 

  • Protect undocumented members of your community
  • Protect LGBTQ+ members of your community 
  • Help officials in your community Trump or his allies are targeting for violence
  • Participate in or organize boycotts of companies that are enabling the Trump regime, including X, Tesla, and those advertising on X or Fox News
  • As you’re able, fund groups litigating against Trump
  • Spread the truth (and keep doing so!)
  • Urge those you know to avoid propaganda outlets, and consider helping them to wean themselves off them and find other news sources
  • Push for progressive members in your community and state
  • Encourage worker action
  • Keep the faith – remember what a small win Trump had; never give up 

If you’re like me, you may be finding it really hard to stay motivated right now – even completing the mundane tasks of life or work can be really challenging in the face of these potential stressors. 

In addition to my weekly Refuel & Renew program (found in my group Crafting Your Life Adventure) and all of my coaching and mental fitness offerings, I’m going to try a new offering, called Together To Do the Hard Things. If this is something you’re interested in but the timing isn’t good, please let me know what times would be better for you. I know it can be much easier to motivate ourselves to do the hard things when we do them together. (Many of our neurodivergent friends have learned this trick – it’s called body doubling!) So if you’d like to have a little accountability and support, whether it’s for paying your bills, or writing your reps or washing the dishes, join me Monday at 6:30 p.m. ET or 7:30 p.m. AT. If it’s popular, I’ll keep offering it. You can keep the screen on or off, and I’ll offer support and coaching to those who’d like it as time and space allow. 

I’m looking for more ways to make a difference in the world. If this would be helpful for you or for others you know, please share it with those you care about. 

Take care, and I hope to see you soon. 

P.S. If you’d like more personalized support in understanding how you get in your own way and in laying out a roadmap to creating a better life, please schedule a Saboteur Assessment Feedback Session. 

Why I’m Taking A Pause

Sunrise
| jamiefeinberg

Taking a pause. It’s something we all do, right? We pause before starting to sing, hearing the intro notes to mark our place. We pause before waiting for our turn to enter a conversation (or waiting for a good time to interrupt). We pause before falling asleep.

But have you built intentional pauses into your day or your week? There’s a reason that professors take sabbaticals, students get a winter or summer break, and at least the white collar desk jobs get vacations. Heck, there’s also a reason our representatives have breaks between sessions, but that’s a whole other story.

Last week I defend the practice of a tea break, but whether that excites you or not, pausing is essential to wholeness and fulfillment.

Yes: taking a pause is essential. If we’re considering a career shift, or feeling like we’ve overcommitted ourselves, or if we’ve been under a ton of stress lately (whether it’s family stress, job stress, health stress, or the state of the world), a pause is what gives us a chance to hear our intuition.

How many times have you noticed that it’s when you’re taking a shower, or walking the dog, or visiting a museum, that you get an idea for a new project or an angle to solve a problem. I get downloads about new courses during yoga, and ideas for blog posts while listening to podcasts.

I hear a lot of people say they don’t have time to pause. They see my life as so different from theirs, whether it’s that I work from home, set my own hours most of the time, or don’t have children. But I’m also a problem-solver (which is also how I created this life), and that means I LOVE a good challenge!

So let me help you find some free time.

Can you wake up ten minutes earlier so you can drink a cup of coffee or tea in silence, or do a few stretches?

If you’ve got young kids, can you designate five or ten or fifteen minutes of a nap time to reading a book, just for you?

If you have a commute, can you spend part of it listening to favorite music, or traveling in silence, or repeating a positive mantra, or even journaling if you’re on public transit?

Can you meditate for ten minutes before bed, or before you start your nightly Netflix show?

If you’re still struggling, leave me a comment with your challenge, and I’ll share my suggestions. And if you have a favorite way to take a pause, please comment and share it with all of us!

Take it easy, and have a great week. And if you’re an aspiring adventurer too, join me in my group, Crafting Your Life Adventure, for tips on taking a pause and for walking tips and inspiration this month.

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